Dr. Joseph Luciani Releases New Book - Reconnecting: A Self-Coaching Solution to Revive Your Love Life
An enlightening and hands-on approach to exploring change in relationships, Joe Luciani makes it easy for couples to create better partnerships and lines of communication.
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) May 14, 2009
Hard economic times not only take a toll on our financial health but also on our personal life. When we are stressed and unhappy our relationships with others suffer -- especially love relationships. Hard times pose serious challenges for most couples as emotional and financial stakes rise and leisure time is impacted. Things that seem small, such as the inability to vacation, eat at a favorite restaurant, or even go to the movies can manifest into larger problems. In RECONNECTING: A SELF-COACHING SOLUTION TO REVIVE YOUR LOVE LIFE (Wiley; May 2009; $24.95/hardcover; ISBN: 978-0-470-32505-6) Dr. Joe Luciani, best-selling author of the Self-Coaching book series, introduces a proven method of helping couples reconnect to each other and heal their relationship.
"As we face today's economic challenges, fear and anxiety begin to permeate our personal relationships and conflicts can develop. Conflict involves two people with two different viewpoints and perceptions," says Dr. Luciani. "Relationships without adequate coping skills, openness, and trust are most susceptible to conflicts. Reconnecting is a process I developed that gives couples the tools and techniques that ensure they can weather any storm together, no matter how devastating."
In his new book, Joe Luciani provides readers eye-opening and life-changing insights into their relationships and offers constant support as they journey towards a more loving and rewarding relationship. Complete with a valuable discussion of the essential principles of successful relationships and how to put them into action every day, Reconnecting is the resource needed to break free of destructive habits, deal with today's challenging times, and create a refreshed, more secure relationship that brings companionship, commitment, trust, and real love.
Luciani has identified five areas that contribute to relationship stress:
1. Each partner's personal baggage. The relationship is a reflection of the personality dynamics of each partner. If you don't like the way your hair looks in the mirror, you don't throw away the mirror -- you comb your hair! Same with a relationship, Reconnecting will teach you to heal each partner's shortcomings thus allowing constructive relating to take root.
2. Financial insecurity (career, job, savings, etc.). Money is one of the top issues couples fight about. With the current financial turmoil, any relationship is susceptible to the corrosive effects of financial fear and doubt. A relationship that's not rock-solid will be especially challenged by these exceptional times.
3. Relationship "baggage." As a relationship matures, invariably, we tend to develop habits and patterns of miscommunication and misperceptions. These damaging patterns become reflexive, knee-jerk reactions to relationship stress.
4. Habits of control. All relationship struggles are about control. When a partner feels out of control (i. e., feeling unloved, attacked, or defensive) they are likely to behave reflexively to regain a sense of control. Some controlling strategies include: avoidance (control through withdrawal from harm), hostility (control by dominating or attacking), manipulating (control by deception), etc.
5. Naïve or distorted understanding of true love. Because of Hollywood and Hallmark, many have a misguided understanding of what constitutes true love. Many feel cheated because there are no longer bells and whistles in the relationship. This is because true and legitimate love is confused with infatuation. Understanding the difference between love and infatuation can not only tune you into a deeper appreciation of your relationship, but it can avoid the unnecessary complications of mid-life regrets and infidelities (the grass being greener on the other side of the fence).
What Makes Reconnecting Different from Other Self-Help Books?
According to Dr. Luciani, most relationship books start with the premise that both partners will be equally involved in the process of healing their relationship. Based on his more than thirty-years of clinical observation in couples counseling, Dr. Luciani has found that most often one partner instigates therapy while dragging in the other, reluctant partner. Reconnecting is a program Luciani designed to save a relationship with or without the cooperation of the less motivated partner--at least at first.
"It's important to understand that struggle in a relationship doesn't happen because someone prefers struggling, it happens because the love in the relationship has been eclipsed by fear, hopelessness, or frustration."
By applying Dr. Luciani's proven method of Self-Coaching, which is explained and utilized in the book, the motivated partner is able to reduce relationship friction, thus creating what Dr. Luciani calls a relationship vacuum. Without the usual tit-for-tat format, the fuel for dysfunctional relating is removed and true healing and communication can begin. Reconnecting enables the reader to heal, motivate, inspire, educate, and change themselves, thus enabling the couple to heal, motivate, inspire, educate, and change their relationship.
"For over thirty years it's been my job to figure out why some relationships thrive and become lifelong successes, while others are filled with personal unhappiness, inadequate communication, faulty perceptions, and broken hearts. Why do some people manage to change while others don't? What's the secret? The secret is that there is no secret."
Reconnecting provides the answers couples need to navigate the turbulent waters we are all living through. Joe Luciani's easy manner and simple-to-understand concepts make it easier than ever (and cheaper too!) for couples to come together and find true happiness.
About Dr. Joseph Luciani
Joe Luciani, a practicing clinical psychologist for more than thirty years, has been bringing his message of hope to millions over the years. He's the internationally best-selling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, published in eight languages. His articles have been featured in numerous magazines and newspapers, including Cosmopolitan, O, The Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Fitness, Health, Shape, Body and Soul; and USA Today. Joe is a frequent guest on national TV, radio, and on the Internet. In his spare time he hunts dinosaur bones in Wyoming, practices yoga and meditation, and is training to run his fourth New York Marathon. Joe Luciani lives what he teaches -- a happy and fulfilling life -- and encourages all of us to connect with the joy of life even if we think something holds us back. Joe and his wife of thirty-eight years live in Cresskill, New Jersey.
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